Netflix recently dropped Brené Brown’s the Call to Courage which breaks down what it takes to be courageous. What is more courageous than leaving a bad marriage and choosing a life of uncertainty. You are essentially going all in on a bet on yourself. This documentary hit me in such a way that I wanted to take some of those badass quotes and get them out there for all of you women going through a hard time. I hope you see your courageous selves!! Leave a comment if you love these quotes.
“You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.”
“When I see people stand fully in their truth, or when I see someone fall down, get back up, and say, ‘Damn. That really hurt, but this is important to me and I’m going in again’—my gut reaction is, ‘What a badass.’”
“I want to be in the arena. I want to be brave with my life. And when we make the choice to dare greatly, we sign up to get our asses kicked. We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.”
“A lot of cheap seats in the arena are filled with people who never venture onto the floor. They just hurl mean-spirited criticisms and put-downs from a safe distance. The problem is, when we stop caring what people think and stop feeling hurt by cruelty, we lose our ability to connect. But when we’re defined by what people think, we lose the courage to be vulnerable. Therefore, we need to be selective about the feedback we let into our lives. For me, if you’re not in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.”
“Somehow we’ve come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we’re very reluctant to reach out for help when we need it ourselves. It’s as if we’ve divided the world into “those who offer help” and “those who need help.” The truth is that we are both.”
“We don’t have to do all of it alone. We were never meant to.”
“You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.”
“If we share our shame story with the wrong person, they can easily become one more piece of flying debris in an already dangerous storm.”
This one was profound for me. Choose your tribe carefully and authentically.
“If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.”
As a therapist and divorce coach, I see this often. That trade is often what keeps people in bad marriages, they may be safe but you open your hurt to so many other issues. Authenticity is scary but it’s freedom.
I hope one or all of these quotes helped you, maybe they’ve opened your eyes to the courageous soul you are or want to be.
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Brene Brown Quotes for Divorce
April 22, 2019
Im going through a divorce after 27 years, and he already has someone else in Brazil. This has been SO hard for me and I’m trying so hard to keep him out of my mind rent free. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.
My marriage has been miserable from the start. And I’m told that my husband is in a long term love affair with a much younger woman. I know I need to get the divorce, just haven’t found the confidence to make it happen. Would love some help!
I’m going through the same after 19yrs of marriege and my counselor says every time I think of him stop myself and replace it with a positive thought about now or what I want in The future for me and there is a meditation called called “ leaves on a stream” that really helped me in the beginning of my journey. Take each day one day at a time and remember you can do this, your strong and smarter than you think…. Be the badass woman that you know you are.
I’m moving on after 30+ years. Putting ME first for the first time. Excited and terrified. I’m fortunate to have a wonderful support system with awesome friends.
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